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The 5th time…..
VIVIAN LIBERTO CASH DISTIN
When you lose one person, suddenly the world can seem depopulated.
I don't believe in coincidences or unexplained events. I never have. I am extremely lucky and grateful for the parents I was given, and I've never taken it for granted.
I believe each one of us has many specific tasks and lessons to learn. I also believe that we are born into the family we will learn the most from. I believe that every soul's life is a miracle.
I believe we are here to learn compassion, empathy, critical lessons, but most of all, how to love one another without judgement, criticism or envy.
Today I honor my sweet Mama. She crossed to the other side 5 years ago today. It doesn't seem possible because one day it feels like yesterday and the next day it feels like forever.
Mom's been gone 5 years.
My sister Rosanne is 55 today. Mom passed away on Rosanne's 50th birthday.
Rosanne was born in 1955. This is the 5th month.
Not a coincidence. The number FIVE has specific meaning this year............ I'm anxious to see what it brings.
Life takes such surprising twists. Sometimes you find yourself in a valley and other days you are shouting from a mountain top. Today I'm at the bottom of a ravine.
My heart and soul are forever wounded, yet I managed to get through the last several years. I didn't know it was possible to actually go on without certain people. I discovered I'm stronger than I would have ever thought, thanks only to my faith and lessons instilled by my parents.
HOWEVER -- I'm tired of missing my loved ones.
I will never stop missing my mom. I will never stop missing my dad and many loved ones that are gone on.
The older I get, the more I accept HOW I am. I discover WHO I am and WHERE I AM. What a journey. That blessing is bent and tarnished only by losing our loved ones and feeling every ache in my aging body.
Thank you Mama for teaching me how to be a proper Southern woman. Thank you for teaching me about faith and the afterlife. Thank you for teaching me respect and compassion for others. Thank you for a million things that were matched only by the million hugs, kisses and "I love you's".
I celebrate mama today and am sending a huge hug, kiss and "I love you" to her today and always.
Thanks to all of you for being here. Much love to everyone.
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May 24th, 2010 - 21:19
So much LOVE to you today!!
May 24th, 2010 - 22:19
that’s beautiful baby.
May 24th, 2010 - 22:22
seriously, dad, great post, mom! xoxoxo
i love you!
May 24th, 2010 - 22:23
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, Kathy.
Your Mother was blessed to have you.
Love and Hugs,
Linda
May 24th, 2010 - 22:47
God bless you, Kathy!!
May 24th, 2010 - 23:09
Such moving sentiments, and so well expressed! Thank you Kathy for reminding me to learn from my family as you have from yours, and to appreciate my own family for who and how they are.
May 24th, 2010 - 23:22
My thoughts and prayers are with you, my sweet friend. I get down in that same ravine sometimes when I think of my parents, both whom I lost at a young age. I wish I could take the pain away and bring them back to you – you know I would. Meanwhile, hang on to the memories and the dreams, as that will make them feel close to you. When I saw you in October I shared how my aunt had told me she believed that dreaming about love ones we’ve lost is God’s way of letting us have another visit with them. I hope you dream often about your parents this year and always. Think of the things you learned from your parents and personify them in your own life. In doing that, they live on through you. I wish I could’ve met them at least once. Knowing you has given me at least a little glimpse of how wonderful they were. God bless you my friend – my heart goes out to you. With much love, Luke.
May 25th, 2010 - 03:02
Your parents are always with you-you have them in your heart & memories-god is with you also-always think of them in happy ways-it helps you climb out of that ravine-I know Iv’e been there too-From Iowa with love
May 25th, 2010 - 03:46
KATHY, WHAT A BEAUTIFUL PICTURE OF YOUR MOM. I KNOW SHE IS PRAYING FOR ALL HER GIRLS, AND GRAND CHILDREN IN HEAVEN. SHE’S GONE BUT SHE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU. I KNOW SHE GAVE YOU ALL THE TOOLS YOU WILL NEED TO JOIN HER LATER ON IN LIFE. LOVE YOUR CHILDREN THE WAY YOUR MOM LOVED YOU, PASS TO YOUR LOVED ONES EVERYTHING SHE TAUGHT YOU, THEN SHE WILL KNOW SHE HAD COMPLETED WHAT GOD PUT HER ON EARTH FOR. WHAT A WONDERFUL WOMAN. DOROTHY
May 25th, 2010 - 04:03
Your mother and father were special people in your and your sisters lives. Your mom was there for you girls and formed you into proper young ladys. Your parents set the way for you girls so you could set the way for your kids. God be with you and your sisters and your familys.You will all meet again one day soon in Heaven and be to geather as a family again.
May 25th, 2010 - 15:32
the number 5 is significant in your life. It is for me too as well as the number 7 for both my son and for me. He was born in 77 and died on the 7th day in December 2007.
May 25th, 2010 - 19:58
Hi, Kathy – special thoughts for a special lady on this special day. I feel privileged to have “met” your Mother through her book – present and future generations of women will empathize and I hope many men and husbands and fathers will read it too, now and in future.
It is a strange coincidence that only last night I discovered a recording by your father in GERMAN : WALK THE LINE in GERMAN on U-Tube. In German the text is different and he asks “Who knows the way back to first happiness ….. ” How wonderful to have found this recording on the eve of a very significant day.
Birthday wishes also to your sister – it is very poignant that those two special days coincide which must be very difficult for everyone in the family (hope your sister Cindy has a lot of support in her grief for her husband as well)
Kathy, I am so happy your mother was able to write and publish her book – a celebration of love and truth. It would have been a real loss not to know about the love and achievements of BOTH of your parents Many many good thoughts to you Kathy – hope to see you in the U.K. sometime – Love, Suzanne
June 10th, 2010 - 01:52
Hi Kathy….long time no talk to. Sorry I’ve been absent. Glad I found this link again……I’ve been reading through your blogs and I’ve got to tell you that I’m very impressed. You write very well. At a high level. You truly express to others just who your mom and dad were and what they were like. Introspection is a great tool when we want to use it and take a good look at ourselves. I think you’ve come full-circle in life. You were once the young girl and young woman who saw herself as the daughter of Johnny Cash. That couldn’t have been easy with the rough road your dad often walked. BUT then you matured and know that you are the daughter of John and Vivian, the daughter of two good people who were just human being like everyone else. I think you helped bring to us an image of your dad on a level that typical fans don’t often get to experience: we started seeing him as a regular person. I think that made it even more obvious how special he was.. And because of you, we learned much about your lovinjg mom that we would have never known. You let us know your mom. I know it couldn’t have been easy, opening your soul to so many strangers. Don’t know that I could have done it, but you did……..Thanks for all the personal feelings you have shared with so many of us through the years. Though you and I have only met three times and live hundreds of miles apart, I feel there’s a kinship between you and I, as well as all of the people who admire your dad.. Thanks for allowing that. Thanks for being you. You’re a very special person……Just what I’d expect of the daughter of John and Vivian. ………BTW, I won’t be a stranger anymore…..God Bless you and your’s.
August 16th, 2010 - 14:10
Hi Kathy, I enjoyed reading your post, it was very interesting. I would like to ask you a few questions, so would you be kind enough to email me, thanks. Have a nice week.
September 3rd, 2012 - 12:09
After seeing the movie, Walk the Line, my friend Tammy and I were curious about your mom. We both read her book and now we LOVE your mom. (We already loved your dad!) I strongly relate to her. The relationship I had with my husband was similar to that of your mom and dad while they were courting. It pulled on my heart reading his letters and the story of their relationship. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. I am comforted to know that Vivian had a beautiful relationship with you. I wish you would write a book about the rest of her life and yours too, after she married the second time, and what you all thought and felt. Something about your mom and dad feels like family to me. God bless you and your family.